Black women, please take note of the silence from your black leaders and heroes on the sex trafficking of 200+ Nigerian girls….

As I type this you should, if you and your family haven’t already, putting plans into place to make sure you and your loved ones are never this vulnerable.

While western nations have a BETTER quality of life compared to African nations, don’t be a victim.  Don’t be a fool. I don’t need to tell you about the Congo-like rapes and the mini Rwanda-style massacres that occur in Chicago, LA, Detroit, NYC, and Atlanta, etc. Imagine if the violence that black faux leaders allow to run amok occurred all over America…black women and girls wouldn’t  stand a chance.

Do everything in your power to uplift and elevate yourself, especially those whose parents and grandparents made the sacrifice to bring you to the West.  Never give the naysayers and detractors your attention or precious time.  Celebrate your culture, but ALIGN yourself with functioning groups and individuals.  Never be afraid or ashamed to ask for help. YOU ARE A HUMAN BEING, not superwoman.

Yes there is evil in the world but there is also so much BEAUTY and KINDNESS and GENEROSITY.  There are still men and women of all hues and backgrounds that WANT and will encourage you to succeed <3

more comments from the few black-owned media platforms discussing the kidnappings…..

"I know white western culture catches a lot of flack for not being diverse/racist/sexist/mean/cheap/evil, but lets be real here: Westernized societies are the only ones with social aid programs, are the only ones with laws that aim to punish and incarcerate child abusers and rapist, the only ones that at least attempt to preserve the rights of minority groups, attempt to engage in a fair legal system, and are the only ones that will protect a woman’s rights in full. 

The systems in these countries are not perfect by any means and there is room for improvement, but at least there is an attempt being made.  How many other cultures can claim to do all of these things simultaneously? 

Truth be told I am a lot less wary of traveling to countries like the UK, Australia and Canada than I am say Saudi Arabia when looking at study and work abroad opportunities.”

comments from my inbox…

so ……. let me get this straight …. NGO are bad, and are showing Africa in a poor light, so much so you wanted to start theafricatheynevershowyou tumblr. and now, after something completely horrific happens, you blame those same NGO for not “leading the fight” in these womens salvation from what it seems is a very African problem. jeez louise , first make up your mind, second stop being hypocritical and lay the blame where they blame springs from, the insanity of Islamofacism and the ineffectiveness and corruption of African state governments


do many of you share these same feelings?? Let me know in the inbox.

Here’s some clarification….

1. I’ve ALWAYS called out the black “faux” leaders of Africa. If you look up failed state on yahoo or google, most if not all African nations would be listed as examples.

2. I’ve called the Islam/Christianity conflict in Nigeria that most want to ignore or pretend isn’t happening. guess what happened…THREATENING messages were left in my inbox, which is part of the reason why I stopped posting on here.  You see you can’t be too honest on here or certain groups will claim they are being attacked and attempt to silence you.

3. I was one the first on Tumblr to question the shady roles many NGOs play in African nations. Many were NOT receptive. It was basically Outsiders know best, Africans keep quiet. So ask where are those individual are who KNOW best?? Where is their leadership at a time like this??

seeing as your tumblr description is:

If you find Nazi, or Watermellon & Fried Chicken memes funny, we’re not going to get along”

I’m sure your comment wasn’t anywhere close to genuine confusion…

Still, I figure others may still be wondering my past and current stance on these matters.

Nigeria's Stolen Girls


"This piece was written by Alexis Okeowo. She is a Journalist that contributes to The New Yorker and granted us permission to share this article with our followers.

This is her interview with Deborah Sanya, one of the kidnapped 234 girls that escaped.”

“I thought it was the end of my life,” Deborah Sanya told me by phone on Monday from Chibok, a tiny town of farmers in northeastern Nigeria. “There were many, many of them.” Boko Haram, an Islamist terrorist group, kidnapped Sanya and at least two hundred of her classmates from a girls’ secondary school in Chibok more than two weeks ago. Sanya, along with two friends, escaped. So did forty others. The rest have vanished, and their families have not heard any word of them since.

Sanya is eighteen years old and was taking her final exams before graduation. Many of the schools in towns around Chibok, in the state of Borno, had been shuttered. Boko Haram attacks at other schools—like a recent massacre of fifty-nine schoolboys in neighboring Yobe state—had prompted the mass closure. But local education officials decided to briefly reopen the Chibok school for exams. On the night of the abduction, militants showed up at the boarding school dressed in Nigerian military uniforms. They told the girls that they were there to take them to safety. “They said, ‘Don’t worry. Nothing will happen to you,’ ” Sanya told me. The men took food and other supplies from the school and then set the building on fire. They herded the girls into trucks and onto motorcycles. At first, the girls, while alarmed and nervous, believed that they were in safe hands. When the men started shooting their guns into the air and shouting “Allahu Akbar,” Sanya told me, she realized that the men were not who they said they were. She started begging God for help; she watched several girls jump out of the truck that they were in.

It was noon when her group reached the terrorists’ camp. She had been taken not far from Chibok, a couple of remote villages away in the bush. The militants forced her classmates to cook; Sanya couldn’t eat. Two hours later, she pulled two friends close and told them that they should run. One of them hesitated, and said that they should wait to escape at night. Sanya insisted, and they fled behind some trees. The guards spotted them and called out for them to return, but the girls kept running. They reached a village late at night, slept at a friendly stranger’s home, and, the next day, called their families.

Sanya could not tell me more after that. She is not well. Her cousins and her close friends are still missing, and she is trying to understand how she is alive and back home. All she can do now, she said, is pray and fast, then pray and fast again.

The day after the abduction, the Nigerian military claimed that it had rescued nearly all of the girls. A day later, the military retracted its claim; it had not actually rescued any of the girls. And the number that the government said was missing, just over a hundred, was less than half the number that parents and school officials counted: according to their tally, two hundred and thirty-four girls were taken.

In the wake of the military’s failure, parents banded together and raised money to send several of their number into the forest to search for the girls. The group came across villagers who persuaded the parents to turn back. They told the parents that they had seen the girls nearby, but the insurgents were too well armed. Many of the parents had just bows and arrows.


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Reciprocity is the name of the game…

If black males ran the U.S. and European nations, black women and girls would be in a similar position to the ones in Africa, and in this case Nigeria.

The frightening part shouldn’t be that it’s true (which it IS).  I’m frightened that many black women in the western world don’t realize this.

Some of us need a reminder of what stands between the lives we have now and the depressing fate of these girls and those before them whose lives were stolen.

If I truly hated you and the citizens of Africa, I would start posting pretty images of Africa and pretend none of this was happening. As my dad likes to say,

"I don’t tell you these truths to make you feel bad or make you upset.  I tell you this because I love you and want you to succeed and prosper.  If your family can’t be open and honest with you, who can???"

a comment I found on one of the few black-owned platforms discussing the kidnappings…..

"I am Nigerian and I do not expect the world to fight our internal battles for us.  If this were a sane country my President would have done us all a favour and resigned ages ago, because he has proved time and again that he lacks the capacity to lead Nigeria.  His administration’s inept handling of the boko haram problem is what has led us to where we are today.

Frankly, people ascribe to you the value that you ascribe to yourself.  Our government in Nigeria has a history of sitting on its ass while Nigerians are abused and brutalised within and outside the country.  Our people are maligned and treated very poorly in foreign countries (especially the Asian ones), but our government rolls out the red carpet for citizens from these hostile countries when they come into Nigeria to live and work and cart our resources away.  In fact, a going joke (which is sadly based on reality) is that if you want quick response to your proposal from any government agency front it with a white, yellow or light brown face and the doors will open fast.  So, what is happening with these poor girls is nothing new; our government does not really care much for its people be they male of female.  

The situation would have been the same if 200 boys had been kidnapped so this has nothing to do with the gender of the abducted.  A while back, students sleeping in their dormitories were shut to death by the same boko haram.  The government made some noise for a few days and that was it.

I could go on and on about how upsetting this situation is and how  the Nigerian government has woefully failed to handle this issue.  

As for the poor international media coverage, this is nothing new.  Black lives have little or no value.  I can say without mincing words that if 200 chimpanzees had been abducted they would have got more media attention worldwide than these poor girls have received.”

To all the people who denounced my posts critisizing NGO’s in Africa….

Where are they now?  How many NGO’s are planning on intervening to assist in the recovery of 200+ girls, if most haven’t been sold off like cattle already??

Some of these NGOs love being placeholders for actual FUNCTIONING governments. So where are you???

Where are the NGO’s in Nigeria and the surrounding nations??? Why have they not been leading the fight, leading the search for these little girls??

I thought you wanted to save Africa. Here is your chance…

I’m sensing a lot of tension and anger in my inbox and in the reblogs…

This is what happens when you try to hold members, particularly the male members, of the black populous accountable or hold them to a higher standard.

-they say it’s not their responsibility

-they blame colonialism

-they blame racism

-they blame it on not being informed

-they blame everyone and anything else BUT themselves and refuse to acknowledge the failings of the members of their group

your indifference has been noted…

Out of all of the African and Black American male rap & hip hop “stars” and celebrities some of you seem to worship….

How many of them have commented, protested, made phone calls, or used their platform in ANY fashion to bring attention to the fact that 200+ girls in Nigeria will most likely never come home??

I’ll wait here….

Poverty Porn - any type of media which exploits the poor’s condition in order to generate sympathy for selling newspapers or increasing charitable donations or support for a given cause.
You will find none of that here :)